3 Simple Things That Will Make You The Most Interesting Person in Any Conversation!
Here are three key actions of the best conversationalists that will immediately draw others to you.
Be Intensely curious!
As you meet someone new, it’s crucial to find something interesting about the other person, perhaps a fascinating fact or idea that you can follow up on with interesting questions. Many studies suggest that curious people have better relationships, connect better, and enjoy socializing more. Other people are more easily attracted and feel socially closer to individuals that display curiosity.
Be A Good Listener!
Making a good impression is key to kick-start a conversation that works to your advantage, but beware of dominating the conversation early on. Since people love to talk about themselves, be the one who lets the other person speak first. Why? Talking about ourselves triggers the same sensation of pleasure in the brain as food or money.
Harvard University neuroscientists found the reason: It feels so rewarding to the brain when people self-disclose in a conversation that they can’t help sharing their thoughts.
Stop Asking Dumb and Uninteresting questions!
Being interesting is about being interested in other people’s interesting lives and not asking dumb questions that won’t elevate the conversation beyond the dreaded small talk. It means avoiding boring questions like, ‘What do you do?’ or ”How are you?’ when you don’t actually mean it. Also steer clear of the weather and discussing your favourite reality TV show.
To counter the effects of a boring conversation from the get-go, be the more attractive person by asking questions like:
- What’s the weirdest thing you’ve ever eaten?
- What’s on your bucket list? (ask a follow-up question about how you can help them accomplish it).
- What new skills are you learning?
- What’s your personality type?
- What’s your calling or purpose in life?